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I am having lots of thoughts recently. This is some reflections or inspirations from peoples around me, and of course, part of it is my own problems. All the thoughts are about: What is the TRUE meaning of life?!

Every book, everyone, even our parents and our school teachers will always tell us to do this and that so that you can achieve something in your life in order to pursue your happiness.

So, we all work hard in order to follow the advice given by the books and someone that we respect the most in our life, to pursue happiness. We study hard in order to score as many ‘A’ as possible until we do not have time to exercise, join any association or committee, keep as many insider information as possible for exam in order to be the top scorer. We do not learn how to share information with others, do not learn the social skills, we do not know how to show our care to our friends. What we learn is to be selfish, jealous and suspicious! We sad when people do better than us. We critic them, we backstab them, we black mail them, do not even want to friend them. We just want to become the top student, top employee, and top people!!

After some time, we realised that we become more and more unhappy. We want to share our problem with our friends, yet no one was having time for us. Then only we found that we do not have friend. Or the friends around us are same like us. They also are having problems like us. We discuss our problems together; we complaints together, and then we conclude that: it’s their entire fault! Why they treat us like that? Why we always having bad luck, meeting lousy people?? Why it’s so unfair for us? Why only us having these problems?? Why? WHY???????

What is the true meaning for our life? Earn big money? Top manager for a MNC? Stay in banglo, driving branded car, wearing luxury accessories?

Does more things that we own = we are happier?

Is the target of your friend = your own target?

Is your siblings mission in life = your life too?

One question that you may want to ask yourself now is, do you want to live under people’s expectation forever? Your boss may tell you: to become a good leader, you need to portrait a professional image. The rules are: not to hang around with subordinates, do not talk much in office, only have lunch with manager, always say yes to the requests from manager, no matter it is within your ability your power, etc. So, we follow, in order for us to own the happiness.

In fact, you are a ‘freestyler’. You hate restrictions and constraints, rules and good practice. You like to hang around and have lunch with your subordinates because they are honest and frank to you. You do not need to worry they will black mail you. They will not give you any lecture during lunch time, when you are enjoying your meal and trying to stop think about the work because your brain need to rest! You hope to have some negotiation power with manager on their requests as they may not the one who understands the whole situation and they are not the one who is doing the job but you and your subordinates! (Please allow me to shout here: Shut Up!!!!!!!!!!!)

There was a dark time in my life where I start to hate myself because I was living under my father’s expectation. He hopes me to follow my brother’s path, study science stream on form 4 &5. In order not to disappointed him, as I am a filial daughter and the only daughters that doing quite well in study (ahem…). After I got my SPM result, he hopes me to study Form Six. Again, this is the path that my brother owned before. I know it is not the way I want. I wasn’t good in science, I am not as hard working as my brother and the most important thing that is: I want to study together with the boy that I admired him few years back! (shame to admit here yet no regret with the decision! ^^)

I was having big fight with my father and even made the decision to stop my study and work in Singapore. I just want to stop this ‘expectation’ game! Finally, my father gave in and I won!! The feeling is so good and I can tell myself that: hmm, I am the ‘real’ adult now! I can decide things that I want in my life!!

But now, it seems like I am experiencing another dark time of my life. I owned an apartment & car (local made), good career with okay salary (comparing with local companies aspect), a small achievement in my career, a caring boyfriend (although not a rich one). I should be happy. In fact, somewhere deep in my heart is telling me that I am not.

I try to search the definition of ‘HAPPY’. I read books, watch movies, observed happy peoples around me. There is no standard answer for it. I do not understand. The word itself is only made up by five characters. Normally the lesser characters the word are, the easier to understand! This is what my school teacher taught!

Recently, I think I have figured out something.

1. No expectation = HAPPY

Do not set any expectation. Do not expect everything to be happening as what you think or expect. This is life, man! Everything surrounding us is so lively! They are not computers or robots. They have their own thinking, so as you! How can you ask the people that you dealt with will give the same answer that you want? If this really happens, then she is just the same as you. She is you!! Why this world need to have two persons living in the same space while your thinking and behaviours are same?

You need to live and work for yourself. It is okay not to live under people’s expectation. You can pursue things you want, be brave!! You’re so unique, you have lots of creativity! You need to do something special for yourself, something is worth to make you proud to be yourself! 

2. Forgive & be understanding

We are not happy because others do not meet our expectation, so we angry and remember how stupid she is and the things she did! We are making her mistake to punished ourself! We remember every single mistake she did. We ‘zoom’ the mistake, we enlarge it, remind ourself to be angry with it.

Think back, is there a need to do so? Is our life all about others mistake? Have we do any mistake before? Have we help them to understand the impact of the mistake and not to repeat it again? How we were live when we did the mistake? This is something about karma. If we can stop it today, then all the sad stories will stop. This is something I believe and trying to do better.

I still looking ways to help myself to gain more happiness in my life. There are lots of philosophy in life yet personally I think happy is the most important principle. I do not want to let my happiness run away from me. I do not want to become an unhappy person as my smile is the most precious thing that I can give to the persons care about me. I am learning to become a better, lovely, and pretty person. I believe I can do it!

How about you?

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A sweet memory share by QQ  

I re-visit Taiwan on end Nov’07, for work reason. The weather is a bit cold as now is their Winter time, but I have forgot to get a ‘Winter Time’ brand clothes with me although I was gentlely reminded by friends and colleagues there :0) Besides working which take up 70% of my time, I still have a happy moment on food and their convenient stores.

I love to visit their convenient stores like 7-11 or Hi-Life as it is like a minimarket in Malaysia, besides selling fresh vege…You can get wide range of soft drinks, teas, coffee, soya milk, fruit/vege juices!!

And the next reason is they are selling different types of chewing gums which couldn’t found in Malaysia. I have to admit that they are really good in packaging in terms marketing strategy which will creates lots of instant buying desire. Each pack of chewing gum cost about NTD 39.

I love the BLACK BLACK from Lotte brand. As self explain by it’s name, the chewing gum is in black colour and it is super hot and make you awake. Good to bring it with you when you have to attend a boring meeting or conference. Another brand that I like is Xylitol that has the same function to awake you. Those fruity chewing gum is a bit sweet for me yet the colour of the chewing gum is really attractive. I guess kids will love it very much!

I have tried the McDonald’s pork burger which we could never get it from Malaysia

The taste is so good~~~ Or maybe this is the 1st time I tried pork burger which made me have other ‘burger’ experience beside chicken&fish,haha!!

Beside this, I have also tried some local foods from night market yet have forget to take the pictures as was hungry and just want to fill up my stomach. Food that worth to try from the night market will be the ‘Hao Da Da’ chicken chop, Bubble tea, ‘Shui Jian Bao’ which you can get it from Shi Da or Shilin night market.

While looking the souvenir for my friends, I am also getting something for myself. To clarify 1 thing here, I am not a softtoy big fans, yet the innocent faces of the little monkeys have driving me crazy. So, I have decided to bring them back to share with you all…..hehe..

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An article written by QQ

As mentioned in Another corner to release ‘DESSERTS’ , I was injured my knee and toes. Then, a friend of mine told me that he couldn’t see any wounds on my knee/feet as I always look good. Funny, right? The wounds are on my knee & toe, not my face! Does this means that whenever you were injured, you have to show all your pain in your face and telling the world that: hei, I was injured! Please pity me!

So sorry, I must tell this friend that I am not that ‘little women’ even if I have that look..haha~~ In fact, I feel embarrass to let the world to know that I injured. In my mind, I have the perception that only small kid will felt down and get injured. As adult, you should have always take good care of yourself, no matter where and when. But, accident does happened

I have taken 2 pictures when I cleared the wound on that night. Here you go, pictures as evidence:

On the following night, I went to see a Traditional Chinese doctor which is highly recommended by a colleague as my foot start to swollen. Then, I had my acupuncture session for the very 1st time of my life!

*This picture was taken using Motorola phone, that’s the reason you couldn’t see it clearly. Sony phone always able to do this better.

I have taken the Chinese herbs for 3 weeks continuously and I can start wearing the high heels shoes now. Although the taste of the herbs is a bit weird yet it really works good for me!

In of the days that I am waiting for the shop assistant to get herbs for me, there is a herb that looks like a worm. At first, she resist to tell me what is the name. After few times, she finally told me that it is an Earthworm!! Somemore, it is an imported from Thailand! Oh, My goodness!! And the most cruel thing is: I had continuously taken the worms with other plants root for about 2 weeks!! So, the worms and root plants have helping me to shape my not-so-normal thinking..haha..CHEERS!!!!

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An untold article resembling her current life in Kuala Lumpur - by CuteCute of UntoldCityLife.com

I am having bad luck recently.

I felt in front of my company’s lobby and almost fainted near the roadside. Luckily I was walking with 2 strong mates and they fetched me home. I have take about a month Chinese Herbs and somemore cannot eat the food I like: spicy, cool, savour, coffee, manggo, tea! It’s really a suffering period yet can see the peoples who are really care for you…So, it always a positive and negative side for every incidents ^ ^.

I went to Langkawi on 3~5 Nov 2007. It’s a relaxing trip where I just eat, sleep, and shopping..haha~~~

I bought lots of chocolates and I have to admit that I am a very demanding people, when it comes to Chocolates. When I told one of friends, he keeps reminding: Don take too much..hehe..I think he must be worry that I might have to spend the rest of my lives with my stove! Well, I believe “no pain no gain”. So if you want to gain some enjoyment through Chocolates, then you need to take the pain being fat! Agree?

I am facing the ‘lost’ period in my life. Of course, for sure, it is not a mid age crisis, because I still have long, very long way to reach it. ^ ^ I don’t know whether I should continue my career in the existing company. Although the pay is quite good and I have see a little bit of achievement so far, yet I a worry for my career in long run. Maybe I shouldn’t be worry so much. I am thinking, maybe I should getting a rich man to marry, kill him then take the $$ and runaway. But, I am not a good runner and too heavy to run. Just worry that I might spent the rest of my life in jail..so, not worth it!

If this is not the way, then which way is the best? Or I should seduce my boss, become his mistress. But then, I will kill by my parents! I am the only daughters who is holding a degree, their very proud with daughter. Then I will lost all my niece and nephew..Oh….No..no…I can’t left my SinChan!!

Hmm..then seems like I still have to work even I hate it sometimes..This is the most sad thing being a human. We always have to accept the fact that the world is unfair, which for sure our kinder garden and primary school teachers have totally wrong perception; acting mature, polite, gentle, calm, friendly even we feel like want to cry, fight or scold someone like 5 years old kid! Arrghhhhh~~~~~

Stressed!!!!

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A voice inside QQ’s heart! A kind of City Culture :p

Do you think this world is fair enough? I was so not happy today

People always said that *Result = Effort + Time*. If you would like your effort being recognized by your boss or manager, you need to show your ability over the time. And it should be consistent! Means when they think that you should or need to do something, then you need to perform it very very good. You should show highly, exceptional good job, no matter you have enough resources or skills . Cos they think that: It’s time for you to learn and showing to me that you are capable! OK, FINE!

But then, I just found out today that, in reality, Result = Effort + Time + Selling skill + Acting skills. Selling skills and Acting skills is quite similar. However, they are different at some extend. Selling skills is how good you are in telling others that you are willing to accept whatever jobs you that have been assigned to you (no matter you like it), then occupied your colleagues time to complete the tasks, and take the credit. Acting skills is skill to act innocent in front of your colleagues that you are FULLY occupied your time on your own tasks until has no time to look on other additional jobs! Yet, can enjoy 1/2 hour breakfast at cafeteria, more than an hours lunch hour and back on time! And finally, being promoted! What kind of world it is??

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A Pahang small town lady who study and working in KL for about 10 years+. Love reading, joking, chocolates & cakes. Always hope to have opportunity to live and work in Europe (in fruit farm ^ ^). Stayed in Singapore about a year yet still prefer KL’s mamak stall.

Like to observe human’s behaviour and reaction as I think it is the most mysterious and interesting part about a human. Have you ever watched the 8TV drama series: Criminal Minds? I wish I can be one of FBI investigator! Prefer motivational and philosophy related books, cos found myself lack of direction and motivation forces….

Always mixed around with guy cos found that they are more easy to communicate and understand! Can you believe that all my best friends are male, so far?? I don’t know and understand why I have the magnet to attract only guys yet the only thing that I can explain is because I am an Aries, haha…

I come from a big family with lots of siblings. When I say lots, I mean it. You might have no interest to know it. But if you do, you can always leave your msg to me. It is my pleasure to serve you! Know nothing about IT yet being force to learn and understand it! Reasons write some notes here is because being invited by the owner of this blog and to kill some of my time…Also, it has been long that I do not write any story for myself and hope that this blog will helps me to remember some of the important happening in my life from today onwards.

If you like my writing, thanks for your support and if you are not, sorry for that..please proceed to look for other blog!

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